We have had several clients who are really struggling with working from home. Some, it’s simply because the house is full, home-school needs, poor internet connections, or confusion and uncertainty about not just COVID, but lack of camaraderie with coworkers. We have a son who is working from home for the first time and he talks about how he feels he doesn’t really have a job, even though he does.
Here are a few of the thing we are hearing:
Frustration #1: I feel like there is a total lack of direction to my schedule and work!
I’m not sure I’m working on the right things! The idea and trust afforded with remote work is wonderful, but if we aren't used to working alone it’s not hard to get confused about what we are needing to achieve or complete. We get it…we’ve worked at home for several years now and still can feel that way.
Suggestions: Start each day writing down where you are and where you need to go with your work that...
This COVID-19 crisis has radically changed our lives. Just a few months ago, we had no idea our 'world' would be confined to our homes.
This crisis is a powerful reminder of how important freedom is - and how much we need human connection!
Remember you are not alone. Because what is DIFFERENT here is that everyone is impacted! Your neighbor, mom, boss and friends as well as your counterparts around the world are all going through something similar.
So, it's important to remember:
Everything can be taken from a man (or woman) but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
~Viktor E. Frankl
This is the challenge each of us must rise to! If we're going to be stuck at home, we may as well make the most of it. So how are you using this rare “time out” from life? Here are some suggestions for you. Hopefully at least one of these will help you maintain your life balance (and maybe...
The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long- term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.
But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives.
And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We must learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.
That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing....
Perfect is not a destination.
It’s a roadblock and excuse to set yourself up for failure. So, it is time to STOP it!
I was on a flight earlier this week and was sitting behind a person who spent 2 hours fidgeting and messing with everything they could possibly touch or control.
Chair back, chair up.
Head rests bent up, head rests bent down.
The air vent open, air vent closed.
Stand up, sit down.
It was driving me and everyone else around her absolutely crazy!
Finally, a flight attendant came to our rescue and asked the woman if she needed some help. Her response?
“No I’m just trying to get the perfect position and comfort level.”
It made me think of the many times in life and business I sweated over every little detail, made change after change because I didn’t feel something was perfect or ready.
As men and women who are difference makers, we need to realize that our life and business are not measured by our ability to be perfect.
When we believe...
Honey, I’m home!
“For how long?”, Cindy asked.
I said… Forever.
July 7 & 8, 2016 — Two days I will never forget.
We live at Eureka Lake in the Flint Hills of Kansas in the middle of the USA.
We made the decision to move from Wichita, KS, the city we had lived and worked in for 30 years to live a calmer life at the lake for a few years.
I (Charlie) worked for a major cable company in Wichita, but didn’t mind commuting back and forth for a year or so.
Our plan was for me to continue working for the next year and basically “bank” my sales income as part of our “retirement” nest egg.
That said, we both are of the mindset that we will never retire.
You see, we are both Life and Leadership Coaches, but my coaching was just a side hustle.
But, once I retired from Corporate America, I planned to build my Life and Leadership Coaching practice and have more freedom to...
Not exactly an over-the-board, can’t sleep type, but a mild case of procrastination and self talk kind of perfectionist.
Why do I believe this?
Because I tried to record three short videos yesterday to introduce a segment for a new coaching kit soon to be released.
The videos only needed to be 30-120 seconds. Yes, that would be seconds — not minutes!
Let me tell you how it worked and you tell me if I am a perfectionist.
I decided to sit out on the deck at my lake-side office. So out I went with my iMac with Quicktime up and running.
I sat on a bar stool with my iMac on a fencing ledge and hit “record new movie”.
I started talking. Then I messed up the name of the topic, so I stopped the recording and played it back.
I scrutinized my hair. I scrutinized the tilt of my glasses.
I scrutinized the top I had on.
I scrutinized every little wrinkle, tilt of my head, and where my eyes were focused.
I decided this wouldn’t work.
So, I slapped on more make up,...
We all have an inner critic. That annoying, negative inner voice that judges, criticizes, and shames us for how we look, how we feel, what we think and what we do. It beats us up over our tiniest faults and our biggest mistakes. It may say things like, “You’re stupid,” “You’re going to fail,” “Who do you think you are?” “You’ll never… (lose that weight, get that job, find a soul mate).”
Though it may not feel like it, our inner critic doesn’t always mean to be malicious. Sometimes it’s just simply trying to help us avoid the pain of rejection, humiliation and isolation. The irony is, when we accept these negative messages it creates the very pain it’s trying to help us avoid.
Here’s a sample of the impact our negative inner critic has on our behavior. It contributes to our: